By Iuri Melo
Greeting friends, it’s time to take a radical approach to transforming our lives. We have all been faced with difficult circumstances, seemingly insurmountable odds, and dark times in our lives. During these times, it’s easy to become overwhelmed with feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. But if we take a moment to pause and step back, we can begin to see that it doesn’t have to be this way.
As a therapist of 20 years, I have seen the power of words and questions to shape our lives. Asking ourselves better questions can help us to shift our perspective and open up a world of possibilities. Questions such as, “What can I do right now that would be helpful?” or “What does life expect from me at this very moment?” can help to break us out of our current state of suffering and fear and into a space of liberation and revelation.
Questions have the power to direct our focus and tell our brain what to focus on. This is called the brain-body connection. When we ask ourselves negative questions, such as “Why does this only happen to me?” or “What if this or that happens?” our brain is directed to focus on those negative scenarios, which in turn releases chemicals in our body and creates a negative trance.
On the other hand, when we ask ourselves empowering questions, such as the ones mentioned above, we can begin to create an internal revolution towards freedom and confidence. This can help to break us out of the anxious and depressive cycles we find ourselves in and help us to move forward in a more meaningful and positive way.
Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, put it best when he said, “It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us.” He realized that our answer must come from the right action and not from talk and meditation.
We can’t always control what happens to us in life, but we can control how we respond to it. We can take the opportunity to ask ourselves better questions and open up a world of potential. When we do this, we can begin to live lives of meaning and liberation.
So, remember that if you ask better questions, you’ll change your life.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Iuri Melo is the co-founder of Copilot and has been a Licensed Therapist for over 20 years. He’s seen thousands of people like you. He’s published two books (Mind Over Grey Matter & Know Thy Selfie), one of which was a best-seller. He’s won awards for his therapeutic work with individuals, and is just a hell of a guy! In his own words: “I adore people; I’m hopeful about people. I’m always amazed at people’s ability to grow, adapt, and expand into better living & thinking. My goal is to inspire deep positive change, and change always begins with bettering our own psychology, and that is what Copilot is all about!”