By Iuri Melo
We all know that relationships are important, but often times, we don’t know how to successfully navigate them. The most important thing to remember is that you are always inviting something in your relationships, whether it be positive or negative. To help manage our relationships, it is important to ask ourselves three questions: What am I inviting? What do I want to invite? How do I invite it?
What am I inviting?
This question helps to increase our mindfulness by allowing us to focus on what it is that we are inviting in our relationships. Even though we can’t control what others invite, being aware of our own invitations increases the chances that others will invite the same things. This is not about manipulation, but rather about recognizing and managing our own invitations to create the environment we want in our relationships.
What do I want to invite?
This question helps to move beyond our primitive instincts and into the spiritual and divine self. It helps us to think about the outcome that we are wanting in the end, and as that becomes apparent to us, we can consciously and deliberately invite it in a manner that is congruent with our objectives and highest values. For example, if we want to cultivate respect, then we must invite respect in the way we interact with our children.
How do I invite it?
This final step involves taking the knowledge of what it is that we are inviting and then inviting our desired outcome. It takes courage and hope to invite love, kindness, and understanding when rudeness, disrespect, and ingratitude are presented to us. But, if we can remember that in the end, a humble, kind, patient, and loving approach will yield the superior outcome, then it can be much easier to stay focused on the outcome that we want.
Asking ourselves these three questions will help us to become masters of our relationships. It allows us to become aware of our invitations, modify them to match what we truly want, and then invite our desired outcome with courage and hope. In the end, this will shape the environment around us and also teach our brains to become less reactive and deal with others in a peaceful and confident way.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Through Iuri’s extensive 20-year career as a Licensed Therapist, he has helped countless individuals and gained valuable insights into the human psyche. As a published author of two books, Mind Over Grey Matter and Know Thy Selfie, Iuri has established himself as an authority in his field. He has received numerous awards and accolades for his outstanding work, and his passion for helping people is evident in everything he does. Iuri’s admiration for people and their capacity for growth and transformation is a cornerstone of his philosophy. He firmly believes that positive change must begin with improving our own psychology, and this core belief serves as the foundation of Copilot‘s mission. Their primary goal is to inspire profound and lasting change in individuals by providing them with the finest and fastest-growing positive psychology service available in the nation.
